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Education “101 “

”Mă tu ești nebun la cap, unde dracu ai văzut, de ce scrii zero mă băiatule? Pune zero la rezultat. Mă tu ești normal la cap? Mă tu ești normal la cap, tu ești întreg? Unde dracu ai văzut pus acolo? Tu nu ești în stare să urmărești o dată cu noi? Mă tu ești normal, mă băiatule (profesoara începe să ridice tonul)? Tu nu îți poți reveni la ritmul colegilor tăi? Du-te naibii în pregătitoare. Du-te în grădiniță. Pleacă în pregătitoare! Incapabil să te concentrezi. Toți sunt acolo (n.red. fac bine), dar el e pe nicăieri. A scris trei imbecilități pe prima coloană. Mă băiatule, tu ești întreg? Unde îți stă mă capul? Vino dracului la catedră să te păzesc ca pe un copil mic. Jumătate de creier ce esti! Adu-ți scaunul să fii supravegheat ca bebelușii. Bebeluș!… Tu dormi noaptea? Că văd că sforăi aici, fără sunet. Unde am scris noi 01, 02 și 04? Tu notezi numere de telefon? Că mi-oi vărsa plămânii aici pe masă, de mi-a țâșni sângele din gât! Să mor eu dacă înțeleg ce vrei să spui. După ce vii la școală dacă nu știi unde esti? După ce vii? Ca să ai de unde merge acasă? Păi stai acasă și nu mai veni”.

Translation:

“Are you crazy?! Where the hell dd you see something like this, to write zero? He writes zero at the result Are you sane? Are you sane? Where the hell did you see? Aren’t you able to keep it up with us?! Are you crazy? (she screams)  Aren’t you able to keep it up with your colleagues? Go the heck to preschool! Go to kinder garden! Go to preschool! Incapable to concentrate. Everyone is here, but his is nowhere. He wrote 3 stupid things on the first column. Oh boy, are you sane?! Where’s your mind?! Come the f*ck to my desk to watch on you like you’re a baby. Half brained that you are! Bring your chair to babysit you! BABY! Do you sleep at night? Because I see that you are snoring, but without sound. where did we write 01, 02 and 04? Are you writing down phone numbers?  I’ll threw my lungs on the table and blood will gush out of my throat! I’ll die and I wouldn’t understand what are you saying, Why are you coming to school? Where are you? For what are you coming? To have a place where from leave home? Stay home, don’t come anymore!”

This happened a few months ago in a primary school in Cluj-Napoca, Romania. The student is in first grade, learning how to add and subtract numbers. And the pupil was writing zero before the final results (e.g. 10 – 4 = 06 ).

Did you know that, in almost in every country, any form of violence in schools is illegal? There are few states in USA that do not have any laws regarding violence in schools, tho.

This kind of behavior of professors makes children either insecure, passive and introverted or violent and naughty. Promoting this kind of attitude at such a young age has an humongous impact on how children will act in the future. It comes as no surprise that in high school they change their entire attitude towards professors. They lose their respect and interest on every subject where they meet with an rather aggressive professor.

In my experience this had a great impact. I had a primary school teacher that banged my less “smart” colleagues with their head on the chalk board if they didn’t know the result of a simple equation. She also used to hit our palms with a ruler if we miss-behaved. I remember that I used to laugh of those who suffered from this treatment, in my eyes I was better than them because I never received any of those and I didn’t play with them in breaks.

This is the best example I could give you. Pupils which are assaulted suffer not only because of the teacher/professor but also because of the other students. They will be marginalized by the other children because, well, they are not like them.

It is such a simple equation. If violence is transformed in something productive or in alternative ways (this is not an alternative:) ) of education. Even if you are old and tired or you’ve lost your patience, there are solutions. For example she could have let the moment to pass and in break take the kid and explain him that the zero it is not necessary because it is implied. And if still he did not understand give him examples from day to day activities which obvious would make more sense to a 7 year old.

Ofcourse there are people (specially in East Europe) that will say that she must have done that already and she had lose her patience. I worked with kids and that is not true. But if it is true, than she should quit her job yesterday.

It is said that the professor is the one that educates you and gives his/her best to make you a role model of the society. which in this case was not even close.

So if you are a professor. Please take some classes of informal education and i promise you that your hole career will change in a way that you’ll never imagine. There are so many NGOs that can provide you with materials that you only have to ask and they’ll help you.

Maria Korodi here, lets change the world.

The hardest way to realize your impact on your kids.

Lately I have been drifting trough internet trying to read more and more about how parents influence their kids and found the most shocking article I ever read and heard. After I finished reading it and hearing it: my knees started to shake, my heart trembled, I started crying and I felt my world torn apart. I always was the type of person who strongly believed that children are fragile and should not suffer, in my teens I was so eager to  do something about child abuse that I volunteer at a kinder garden to help with the summer school and when I had the time help the older ones whit their homeworks, summer project and even play games. I thought then that I could make a difference.Now I think that I left the filed because I was way too hard to solve every child’s issue and be there for each of them, in fact it was impossible. Most of them were coming from a harsh life, with poor and disfunctional families whom beaten them and put them through physical and mental violence. And it’s not that I gave up, but I started educate them. I worked with middle school children until last year and it was fun.

Back to the article … I hope that you’ll find motivating and if you ever hear this kind of fighting in which babies and kids scream in the most violent way, just knock at the door to only temper things or if it continues call the authorities (at least that’s what I’ll do in this case)

Lisa Floyd only 6 years old called the 911 emergency line, During this call she is in tears as she begs the dispatcher to send a police because her stepfather is beating her mother everything she describes that is happening is horrifying to listen to and you can really feel the pain in her words.

Fortunately for her, this wasn’t the end of Lisa’s story. Though, like many stories, things got worse before they got better.

RyuzakiKun23, Children of Domestic Violence and Field Education

It was around this time that Lisa found out about the tape. According to Field Education, Lisa vaguely remembers signing over rights to this 911 call audio recording to her, but she had no idea this tape would be “used to educate people about the effects of domestic violence on children.” Even with years between her and the incident, Lisa is still not able to listen to the call and relive the events of that night. She does wonder why this particular recording has gotten so famous. She said she called the police hundreds of times when she was a young girl, and Child Protective Service (CPS) workers came out to her house at least twenty-three times. She and her siblings were never taken away. When she was younger, she didn’t want to be taken away from her mother and was glad CPS never took her away, but, now that she can look back, she wishes they had… really breaks our hearts here at AllViralPosts.

On the Children of Domestic Violence blog, Lisa shares her personal story and starts it all off with, “I’m Lisa, a survivor with a future, because of my past.” She talks about the difficulty of growing up and how life continually tried to drag her down, “I started to believe I wasn’t worthy. I felt like a failure, destined for nothingness. I didn’t believe I could change my life or my situation.” With these feelings, she moved into a relationship just to feel something, but it didn’t take long before the relationship turned abusive. She put up with it for years, but was eventually able to break away. She attributes a lot of that to “people who have entered my life during this transition. The ones who took the time to encourage and nurture my growth.”

Near the end of her story she says, “My journey isn’t over – I still have many lessons to learn and obstacles to overcome. I’m just not afraid to take them on.” I think it is important for people to remember. You aren’t stuck where you are. You are simply facing an obstacle you need to overcome. With the help of people who care about you and your own belief that you have worth, you can survive and become stronger

Listen to the video below, but remember that it involves implications of domestic abuse and child abuse. While listening to it and remember that this little girl is alive today and is on the right path to finding safety and happiness in her life.

The positiveness of this people (http://fb-24.allviralposts.com) it’s a bit off place if you ask me. It bothers me because it seems that they didn’t even listen to the audio. Yes, she’s on the right path, she’s good now, but was it worth the pain?

MARIA KORODI HERE, SEE YOU AROUND.

Mother as a role model

This little girl is going viral on the internet. Of course is because she`s cute, funny and sweet in explaining why she has gone into her mother`s makeup. Generally speaking, little girls do this because of reasons they are not conscious of. I will further try to explain the entire social and psychological phenomena of this action.

Little girl’s identification with the mother takes place in an early age and plays an initiative role in the formation of their femininity.

Sigmund Freud, known as the father of psychoanalysis, notices that the little girl`s game with dolls is an action of “identification with her mother with the intention of substituting activity for passivity”. The girl`s identification with her mother also leads to her learning of taking care of children, therefore it is conceivable that her mother, as her role model of woman and her identification with her mother is critical to the formation of femininity. The identification is compatible with women`s social status and its influence on psychical development. Having this in mind, it is much clearer why little girls get into their mom`s makeup and as the girl from the video says: “want to be pretty like you” (her mother).

Another psychoanalyst, Jean Laplanche, best known for his work on psychosexual development argues for the primary role of others, especially others within an intimate socii (plural of socius) with us, in our gender formation; rather than the little girl picks up her mother to identify herself with, it is her parents and close relatives who assign to her her gender, and identify her with her mother.

We can relate this to George Herbert Mead, (philosopher, sociologist, and psychologist) and his definition for the “significant other”. Significant others are those persons who are of sufficient importance in an individual’s life (family members and close friends or mentors) to affect the individual’s emotions, behaviour, and sense of self. Through interactions with significant others, and perceptions of their responses to one’s behaviour, an individual gains a sense of who he or she is, and comes to understand how to act in a given context and role. Self-concept is based largely on our perceptions – whether accurate or not – of whom we are in the eyes of those whose opinions matter to us.

Harry Stack Sullivan (psychiatrist and psychoanalyst) and G.H. Mead) suggest that socialization relies upon a person’s considering the other’s view of himself or herself as important. Having positive feelings toward another will greatly increase the chances that this person will become significant, and thus serve as a reference for belief and behaviour. Mead was among the first to recognize the role of important others in the development and maintenance of identity.

To conclude, we go back to Freud and assert that not even femininity, but understanding of group identities, such as sexual, gender, racial, and cultural identity, may all be inspired by Freud`s dynamic perspective of ego formation and consideration of family as the primary source.

 

Written by Ana-Maria Gulin

 

Sources: academia.edu, blackwellreference.com

 

 

Despre aborigeni şi gardul anti-iepuri

The topic for tomorrow’s class is cultural norms and values in traditional communities and modern societies (Yes, I just made a combination between the course topic and the seminar topic. But when did we ever draw a clear line between these activities?)

Here’s some food for thought until then – an older blog post that the blogger recommended after I shared on Facebook an article from The Guardian about the heartbreaking modern eugenics allowed and practiced in nowadays Autralia (did I use some normative words in this sentence? Of course I did. To some extent, social scientists have the opportunity to form opinions based on information and to care&act as citizens).
Yours truly,
Dr. Whoifof

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Fără diversitate am fi cu adevărat săraci şi trişti, lipsiţi de entuziasm şi de soluţii. Am fi la fel şi am face lucrurile într-un singur mod. Probabil mulţi ar muri devreme, răpuşi de plictiseală. Eu sigur.

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