Virtual Love

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Today, basically everything happens online. People are in touch with their friends, share emotions, thoughts, via social media. They talk to each other via Viber or Watsapp, and find love on Facebook, Tinder or Match.com…In this era where everything seems so digitally simplified, is it true that it’s easier to find the right one for us? Does the online dating sites really help or like any other business, intend to increase their profitability no matter what?

Online dating used to be this scary and shameful thing when it just started.You know, back in the day, when people thought that Internet is for porn and creepy perverts only. People used to have this weird idea that only creeps and losers would stoop so low as to try and find love on the internet.  The truth is, nowadays you spend most of your day on the internet. We’re all constantly on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Youtube. That’s how we make friends.

People on phones with social media icon chalkboard

People on phones with social media icon chalkboard

That’s how we work, shop, watch movies. So why not find love the same way? And yet, the last few, lets call them “oldfashioned” people who still don’t believe in online dating and think it’s a horrid idea. Well, let’s see how it really is and shun those ideas once and for all.
First and foremost it’s important to state that 1 in 5 relationships starts online these days. Be it specific online dating services, or just social media – that’s how people meet now. It’s the norm. Get over it. It’s the 21st century and everything’s online.

Which are the most popular dating websites?

  • Badoo – Owned by Badoo Trading Limited
  • Chemistry – Owned by InterActiveCorp (IAC)
  • Christian Mingle – Owned by Spark Networks
  • Date.com – Owned by Avalanche, LLC – Includes information about Matchmaker.com and Amor
  • eHarmony – Owned by eHarmony Inc. – Includes information about Compatible Partners
  • FriendFinder.com – Owned by FriendFinder Networks – Includes information about other FriendFinder dating sites
  • Facebook – Owned by Facebook Inc.
  • JDate – Owned by Spark Networks
  • Match.com – Owned by InterActiveCorp (IAC) – Includes information about IAC
  • OkCupid – Owned by InterActiveCorp (IAC)
  • POF.com / PlentyOfFish.com – Owned by Plentyoffish Media Inc.
  • Spark.com – Owned by Spark Networks – Includes information about Spark Networks
  • Tinder – Owned by InterActiveCorp (IAC)
  • Yahoo! Personals – Owned by Yahoo Inc.
  • Zoosk – Owned by Zoosk Inc.

Researching the web, I’ve found many interesting articles, statistics and documentaries done on the issue.

In this manner mentalfloss.com have collected the 11 most relevant research results conducted on the issue of online dating. One of them is that 81% of the daters lie about their physical characteristics, like height, weight or age. This phenomenon, was observed by the in a study conducted at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. The subjects were measured by the expects and it was conducted that their real characteristics were different from the one mentioned on their profile. Checking their driving licence they have noticed that their age was different as well.

I wanted to get a little inside of the dating story so I asked Georgiana, a journalism student and a user of Tinder. 

2. Why did you started to use Tinder?
Because I heard everyone talking about it. in movies, tv series, social media. wanted to know what all that was about…
3. What do you like about it?
I like the fact that only the people that I like can contact me, not all the people that like me.
4. What don’t you like about it?
Its not that I don’t like it, but I think it’s a negative aspect the fact that Tinder promotes a very quick and shallow way of judging people. You like or dislike them mainly based on their profile picture. That is so dismissive! And it creates unrealistic expectations and possible behaviours in real life!
Funniest thing? How I saw a lot of my Fb friends there, some of them have girlfriends, some of them even had profile pictures with their girlfriends. I mean, why swipe left and right if you already settled down?! Kinda makes me feel violated. People who are already settled with their special one should not be able to see me in that “exposed” position, waiting in line to be swiped like a movie in a renting shop.
5. Did you go on any date through the platform?
Nope and have no intention for now. Went to dates from FB, though…
Another thing I have found while surfing online were, the investigative documentary series done by the BBC , Tainted Love that reveals the tricks used by the dating websites. As players of an ever-growing industry, many dating websites higher people just in order to “full” others that are in search for love. They might even use pictures of individuals, without their notice.
If interested in more critical view on the subject , watch the series here:
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