Need and Desire. Marriage vs. Wedding

Sometimes we want things that we actually don’t need, and I’m not referring only to expensive accessories or cars, but to something different and more important such as a wedding. Yes, wedding is different from marriage. While marriage implies love, affection, respect, understanding, soul mates, wedding is just a huge event, celebrated with family, relatives, friends, acquaintances and neighbors just because you have to, otherwise you’re not normal.

According to the definition, a need is when we require (something) because it is essential or very important rather than just desirable or expressing necessity or obligation, while desire is a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.

A Polish anthropologist, Bronislaw Malinowski talks about the satisfaction of 7 basic needs:

  • Nutrition
  • Reproduction
  • Bodily comforts
  • Safety
  • Relaxation
  • Movement
  • Growth

So, can we recognize these in a marriage? What about in a wedding?

On one hand I consider that marriage is a need, rather than a desire, and wedding instead more as a dream for children, who due to cultural background and traditions, plan to have a big wedding party, nice white wedding dress, and so on.

On the other hand, people will always live together, forming couples and families, and getting married is more a formality, because of that paper signed by both the man and woman.

Here you have some pictures from weddings. I personally don’t want such a wedding even if I’m obliged to respect the old costumes. What about you?



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