Sometimes we want things that we actually don’t need, and I’m not referring only to expensive accessories or cars, but to something different and more important such as a wedding. Yes, wedding is different from marriage. While marriage implies love, affection, respect, understanding, soul mates, wedding is just a huge event, celebrated with family, relatives, friends, acquaintances and neighbors just because you have to, otherwise you’re not normal.
According to the definition, a need is when we require (something) because it is essential or very important rather than just desirable or expressing necessity or obligation, while desire is a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.
A Polish anthropologist, Bronislaw Malinowski talks about the satisfaction of 7 basic needs:
- Bodily comforts
So, can we recognize these in a marriage? What about in a wedding?
On one hand I consider that marriage is a need, rather than a desire, and wedding instead more as a dream for children, who due to cultural background and traditions, plan to have a big wedding party, nice white wedding dress, and so on.
On the other hand, people will always live together, forming couples and families, and getting married is more a formality, because of that paper signed by both the man and woman.
Here you have some pictures from weddings. I personally don’t want such a wedding even if I’m obliged to respect the old costumes. What about you?