There is a tribe in Africa known as the Himba people. They live in north of Namibia on the banks of the Kunene River.
So what’s that about this tribe that is so special? The fact that they count the birth date of the child since the day the mother decides to have the child, not since he was conceived or born.
“When a Himba woman decides to have a child, she goes off and sits under a tree, by herself, and she listens until she can hear the song of the chis that wants to come. And after she’s heard the song of this child, she comes back to the man who will be the child’s father, and teaches him the song. And then, when they make love to physically conceive the child, they sing the song of the child , as a way to invite the child.”
After she becomes pregnant, she teaches the child’s song to the old women of the village and the midwives, so that when the child is born people around her shing the child’s song to welcome him in the world. Through his childhood the other villagers learn the child’s song so that they can sing it to him when he is hurt, or when he accomplishes something or even when he hits the puberty, as to be honored as a person.
They also sing the song to the child if he commited something wrong, like a crime, so that the correction for antisocial behavior is not punishment, it’s love and the remembrance of identity. ” For when you recognise your own song, you have no desire or need to do anything that would hurt another. ”
When he/she gets married the song is sung together with the husband/wife.
“And finally, when the child is lying in his bed, ready to die, all the villagers that know his or her song come and sing – for the last time that person’s song.”